When Two Women Hit Menopause: Double the Fun, Double the Fans
Menopause is wild enough when it’s just you. Add in a relationship — especially when you’re both women and possibly both in it at the same time — Like two fireworks in a coffee mug—sparkly, chaotic, and kind of magical.
Spoiler: Sometimes they sparkle together, sometimes they set off the smoke alarm.
Here’s the lowdown on the pros, cons, and hilarious truths of being in a lesbian relationship during menopause.
Why Menopause Can Strengthen Lesbian Relationships
She gets it.
You don’t have to explain why you’re crying over burnt toast or stripping naked in the lounge room. She’s either been there, is there, or is about to be there. Instant empathy. This kind of lesbian menopause support is priceless.
Shared survival plans.
Tag-teaming yoga, herbal teas, or rage-cleaning the kitchen at 2am. Two menopausal brains are better than one.
Double the fan power.
When hot flushes hit, there’s always someone to pass you the ice packs or aim the pedestal fan your way. Bonus if you’re both roasting — you’ll finally agree to crank the air con.
Built-in support crew.
No lectures, no “it’s just hormones” nonsense. Just a partner who sweats, snacks, and sighs alongside you through the ups, downs, and mood swings. This is what makes menopause in same-sex relationships so unique.
The Cons: When Menopause Feels Like a Double-Whammy
Double mood swings.
Her tears meet your rage and suddenly you’re both sobbing while shouting about who left the milk out. Chaos.
Conflicting symptoms.
One of you is freezing, the other is sweating like a busted kettle. The doona becomes a nightly war zone.
Libido roulette.
One’s feeling frisky, the other’s feeling like a dried-up cactus. Timing is everything, and sometimes, the stars just don’t align.
Brain fog battles.
You both forget what you were arguing about, which is good… until you also forget dinner is in the oven. Oops.
The Funny Side of Lesbian Menopause Life
The Hot Flush Strip Show.
Who knew romance could be taking your shirt off mid-argument because your inner furnace hit 200 degrees? Sexy, but also sweaty.
The Menopause Olympics.
Event #1: Who can find the car keys faster while brain fogged?
Event #2: Who survives the doona tug-of-war?
Event #3: Who remembers to get the milk from the supermarket.
Snack Sabotage.
Two women in menopause means the chocolate NEVER lasts. “I swear there was a block here last night!” Yeah… about that.
Silent Treatment… or Just Forgot?
Sometimes you think she’s ignoring you. Turns out she just forgot what you said three seconds ago. Menopause or selective hearing? You’ll never know.
Tips for Surviving Menopause Together
- Establish the Doona Treaty.
One doona each. No arguments, no tug-of-war. Peace restored.
- Communicate… even when you don’t want to.
Yes, you’re cranky. Yes, she’s cranky. But if you keep it bottled up, you’ll end up having a screaming match over the dishwasher. Say it, then laugh about it later.
- Stockpile snacks.
Chocolate, chips, wine, herbal tea — whatever gets you through. And hide an “emergency stash” somewhere only YOU know about.
- Keep the humour alive.
When menopause chaos hits — whether it’s misplaced keys, snack theft, or forgetting why you walked into a room — laugh at the absurdity. Give each other a knowing glance, roll your eyes together, and remember: surviving the little everyday disasters is way more fun when you can laugh through them.
- Schedule alone time.
You love each other, but sometimes you need space. A walk, a nap, or a Netflix binge in separate rooms can save the relationship.
- Celebrate the wins.
Made it through a day without snapping? High five. Managed a cuddle without overheating? Gold medal. Celebrate the little victories.
The Bottom Line: Love in the Age of Menopause
Menopause in a lesbian relationship is messy, emotional, and sweaty — but it’s also weirdly bonding. You cry together, laugh together, fan each other down, and discover new levels of patience (and snack hiding spots).
It’s not always pretty, but damn, it’s real. And if you can survive menopause together, you can survive anything.
Written by Shan 46